Wednesday, 24 August 2016 14:59

Keeping Your Promises And A Promise Of Mine

Keeping Your Promises Is An Important Lesson We're Taught Early On

People toss around phrases like "Do what you say" a lot, especially when it comes to promises made to others.

When it's something important, like RSVP'ing for a wedding, or saying you'll be there for a funeral, people expect you to show up. Most of the time, you do everything in your power to fulfill your promise to be there too.

When it comes to bills, you do everything in your power to make sure you still have a roof over your head when the rent or mortgage is due too, right?

But lets look at it from a different angle:

Why Do We Constantly Break Promises We Make To Ourselves?

If I am the most important thing in my life, why would I make a promise, of say, losing 10lbs in 2 months, and then fail right away?

Why would anyone promise themselves to get rich, and then not do it?

What if you made a promise to make the CEO of your company rich by slaving away every day so that he or she can live a rich life, would you do everything in your power to make that happen?

I have news for you:

You made that promise when you started working for someone.

You also do everything in your power to get to work, slave away for 8-12 hours and help them live the lifestyle they want to live.

So what if you said, "I Promise to work my ass off every day and night to get rich, life the life I want, and fulfill my dreams"?

Would you make good on your promise, or would it fall to the wayside when things got too rough?

Most people can't just quit their job.

At work, when the going gets tough, you figure out a way to cope with the stresses and pull through.

So when you feel that your path to success is too hard in your personal life and goals, why are you not finding ways to break through there?

Fulfilling promises you made to yourself is only 10% of the struggle.

The other 90% is making the promise, mastering your fear of failure, committing to the promise and then executing a massive action plan to make it happen. No. Matter. What.

It's easy to make a promise but where failures happen is in doing the daily tasks that are necessary to get you there.

My Public Promise To Myself

I haven't put my own dreams and goals out there on this blog yet, nor does anyone know about them. 

I have been scared to commit. I'll admit that.

I'll also admit, the last time I shared my dream of writing a book with someone, they laughed when they read it and essentially said something that made me quit altogether.

I'm going to step out of my safety zone and tell you my personal promise that I've made to myself:

In One Year (From August 1st, 2016) I Will Be In Vietnam To Experience the Country and People For Myself. I Will Be There No Less Than One Week, And I Will Do And See As Many Things As A Week or More Permits.

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There's some background to this promise.

I won't go into too much detail here because that's not the point of this blog post.

I was born in Vietnam near the end of the Vietnam War. I was orphaned and taken to orphanage -- I don't have any memories from this time because I was under a year old.

On April 3, 1975, U.S. President Gerald Ford announced that the U.S. government would begin "Operation Babylift", the process of airlifting orphans out of Vietnam to other countries. I was one of those babies that was taken from Vietnam and brought to the US.

I've never been back to Vietnam.

I've never had the money to go, much less spend any time there.

Now I'm Sick Of It.

I'm 42, and I'm sick of seeing everyone else go there. People who weren't even born there telling me I need to go back and see it for myself.

I'm tired of seeing my friend's Facebook posts from going there and biking around the country on a one month tour.

I finally decided that it's my turn to actually go back, and for me, this is the focus of my life for the next year.

I am making a promise to myself that I will be in Vietnam for at least a week at this time next year.

I am not going to take the "Lazy Way Out" by setting up a "GoFundMe" to raise capital.

There are a few requirements that I had:

  • I will not use any "current income" to fund this return. I know exactly how much I make every month as it's limited by a paycheck. I will be creating passive income streams from websites and other means to fund the trip.
  • The income will not stop coming in when I'm in Vietnam - In the truest Tim Ferriss way, money will have to come in every day through my "income autopilot" mechanism, and not stop just because I'm on a vacation. 
  • When I return, I can just pick up where I left off and continue to work towards my next dream (Three Countries in Three Months in 2018)

 I go into more detail about the trip I'm planning in an upcoming blog post titled, "Vietnam in 365 Days", and show you the Dreamline and process I am building to get there.