Friday, 09 September 2016 13:10

Purpose Driven Dad - August 2016 Report

procrastination

I can't believe that it's been a month already since I started the Purpose Driven Dad!

This post is special for me.

It's the first post in a series of monthly status updates on how things are going with Lifestyle Design, Making Massive Changes and in Making Money Online through passive income.

August 2016 Report

In this post, I cover:

  • What I've been up to
  • What Changes I've Made

Let's get started!

What I've Been Up To In August

It's funny really... this summer has gone by way to quickly for our family. With the kids getting out of school on June 18th, and going right in to a week long family vacation, summer started off with quite a bang!

In less than two weeks it was July, and my wife and I just felt like summer was about over... especially when you see those infernal Back to School ads all over the place as early as July 4th!

There was a death in the family just as July was wrapping up, and of course, we had to go and pay our respects.

Finally, it was on August 6th that I just got fed up with where I was at in life. The fact that I was working my @ss off and really felt like life was going nowhere. Since then, I've really focused on making massive changes and re-evaluation a Lifestyle Design plan that gives me what I want out of life.

The Journey Begins...

It started when I picked up the book, The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss. It was August 4th when I actually started reading it. I'd actually bought the book back in February, but just hadn't gotten around to reading it.

Everyone was in bed, and it was around 11PM and I was wide awake. Rather than jump on the computer that night, I decided to relax and read. Thing is, I didn't realize that it was going to fire me up to make big changes with my life. It's a jump off point for everything in my mind. It made me think about what my life was, and what I wanted it to be, and decided to create this website.

From that point, I decided that August would be a month to really dig deep and look at myself, how I think and what I do. I made the decision to identify the problem areas in my life and begin making the changes that I needed to make to become the person I really wanted to be.

What I Observed About Myself

The truth is brutal!

I never realized how lazy I was. I knew I didn't like doing the things I didn't want to do, but I was downright avoiding just about everything that wasn't interesting or fun for me.

It wasn't like I would tell myself I wouldn't do those things (like spending more time with the family, reading books, getting things done, etc...), but rather, I'd put them off in a much more passive agressive way:

Procrastination.

That was my crutch.

I'd tell myself that I'd do the things that had to be done, sure... I'd just do them "someday" or "when the time was right" or "when I was less tired."

I was just making excuses not to do things. 

I realized that I was stopping myself from moving forward with endless procrastination.

It hit me hardest in this way:

It was the first weekend in August. I had promised my wife that I'd mow the lawn on the weekend during the week because I didn't feel like doing it then.

When the weekend came around, I didn't mow on Saturday because it was too hot. On Sunday, I created other busywork so that I wouldn't have to mow either, although my wife reminded me both days.

During the week, I didn't mow because I was too tired when I got home from work. Besides, there was dinner to make and family time "that was more important".

Mowing the lawn was hanging over my head all week, and in the back of my mind, it kept nagging at me.

I just kept pushing it off with excuse after excuse.

As the second weekend rolled around, I successfully pushed it off again for both days.

By now, the grass must have been at least six inches high.

On Tuesday evening when I arrived home from work. I found my lawn mowed and trimmed.

I asked my wife about it, and she said, to my horror, that she had to pay a lawn service $30 to do the lawn just because I wouldn't do it.

I was irate! But in reality, could I really blame her? I was the one that was at fault.

It was a hard and expensive lesson in taking control of the things around you. Not letting the "To Do's" pile up, and above all, for myself personally, to really watch and control my procrastination of doing things I don't really want to do.

In the following days, the biggest change that I made was probably one of the most important ones I'll ever make in this journey.

I stopped procrastinating. I stopped putting things off. I stopped making excuses for everything that I didn't do.

This one single massive action was very hard. My habits are deeply ingrained in to who I am and what I do. Shedding the safety of procrastination (and stagnation) was extremely hard.

But the hardest part was that no one could see this change. It's not like anyone really cared either.

I was pushing through each and every day, vigilantly watching what I was doing and thinking, and when procrastination or putting something off came up, identifying it and then taking a moment to put it aside and get started on what needed to be done.

The success I've had over the subsequent days has been some of the most rewarding moments I've had in a long time. Getting things done. Striking at least twice as much off my "to do" list on a daily basis. But it's the feeling of putting the hard work behind you so that your slate is clear to take the time to enjoy what you want, and I mean really enjoy it without having some task hanging over your head that you should really be doing instead.

The other big change that I made was to extend my waking hours during the day.

I still love sleep, but I made the active decision that who I wanted to be and what I wanted from life was going to be more important than sleep. I realized that I only need three to four hours of sleep and still be able to function well the next morning.

I began just by staying up later and later, but soon realized that it wasn't enough to just stay up...

I began really working on the things I wanted to get done to reach the dreams and goals I had during that time, and again, even though no one saw any difference or changes, I know what they are, and to me, that's just satisfying.